Identity-Centred Communication
Part of the AURIS approach to identity, stability and human development.
- Professional
- Practitioner Certification · £400
- Practitioner Certification
- Course 1 of 6
- About 150 minutes
Practitioner course 1 of 6. How communication protects, strengthens or unintentionally damages another person's identity, and how to hold a conversation when identity is under pressure.
What you'll leave with
You finish with a professional summary of what you can now do, your own pause and re-entry wording, your stated referral thresholds, and your Practitioner's Conversation Record to carry into real work. Course 2 then asks what changes when there are eight people in the room.
Watch the course introduction
Watch this before you begin
Identity-centred communication begins with listening well enough to hear the person rather than rushing to solve the problem. Julian Treasure offers a short reset on conscious listening. Watch it as a skills primer, then notice how the course moves from hearing words to hearing identity, meaning and context.
Sold as part of the Practitioner Certification: £400 in full, or £50 a month for 8 months.
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Suggested learning pathways
Where this course fits
- Where it sits
- Specialist learning that can be taken on its own, in any order.
- What usually comes before
- Nothing. This is a starting point, and the free Introduction to AURIS is always open alongside it.
- What usually comes next
- Whatever fits your situation. See the five pathways.
A pathway is a suggested order, not a requirement. Nothing here has to be bought to make this course work.
About this course and why it matters
About this course
This is not a course about communicating better. It is professional training in how communication acts on identity. Every practitioner conversation does something. It either reinforces the identity a person is holding on to, or it helps reshape it. Nothing about that is neutral, and most of it happens without either person naming it. Across six lessons you learn to hear the identity claim underneath what someone says, to notice overload before it ends the conversation, to hold two accounts of the same event without adjudicating, to pause and re-enter deliberately, to keep observation separate from interpretation in what you write down, and to decide with justification whether to continue, hold or refer. The course follows the AURIS Framework in sequence: Awareness and Understanding to hear it, Regulation to hold it, Identity and Stability to be answerable for it.
Why this matters
Every later skill in the Practitioner Programme, facilitation, assessment, ethics, motivational interviewing and applied practice, is delivered through a conversation. If a practitioner cannot keep a conversation safe and honest when someone is dysregulated, nothing that follows can be applied.
What you will learn
- Explain why communication is never neutral, and how every interaction can either reinforce or reshape another person's identity
- Explain how language and conversational patterns reinforce or loosen a person's sense of who they are
- Recognise signs of overload in another person and in yourself, and describe why they end useful conversation
- Distinguish a factual account from an identity account when a person describes their own experience
- Slow, pause and safely re-enter a conversation, using a stated method and a stated reason
- Separate observation from interpretation when speaking about or recording what a person said
- Decide, and justify, when to continue a conversation, when to hold it, and when to refer on
Course curriculum · 6 lessons
Course curriculum
6 lessons. The lesson content itself opens once you start the course.
Lesson 1 · about 25 minutes
Language and Identity
AURIS stage: Understanding. Before you can act on identity you have to understand how words act on it. This lesson teaches you to hear the identity claim underneath ordinary content.
- Explain why communication is never neutral in an identity conversation
- Identify identity language markers in what a person says about themselves
- Respond to the identity claim rather than only to the content
Lesson 2 · about 25 minutes
Reading Overload in the Room
AURIS stage: Awareness. Trained noticing, in real time, before interpretation. This lesson moves your attention from the topic to the person.
- Recognise early behavioural and physiological signs of overload in another person
- Recognise the same signs in yourself while you are working
- Explain why continuing a conversation past overload is a practice failure rather than persistence
Lesson 3 · about 25 minutes
Two Accounts of the Same Event
AURIS stage: Understanding. Why honest accounts differ, and how to hold two of them without deciding which person is lying.
- Explain why two people can hold different and honest accounts of the same event
- Distinguish a factual account from an identity account
- Hold two accounts professionally without adjudicating between them
Lesson 4 · about 25 minutes
Holding, Pausing and Re-entering
AURIS stage: Regulation. Your first active skill. You are now intervening in arousal rather than observing it.
- Pause a conversation using a stated method and a stated reason
- Agree a return so that a pause is not experienced as rejection
- Use co-regulation deliberately rather than instinctively
Lesson 5 · about 25 minutes
Observation, Interpretation and the Record
AURIS stage: Identity. This is where your words become another person's durable identity story, and where you become accountable for it.
- Separate observation from interpretation in speech and in written records
- Explain how interpretive language in a record can fix an identity in place for years
- Identify your own bias as a live professional risk
Lesson 6 · about 25 minutes
Continue, Hold or Refer
AURIS stage: Stability. Every conversation ends in a decision. The purpose of that decision is to leave the person steadier than you found them.
- Decide, and justify, whether to continue a conversation, hold it or refer on
- Recognise signals that a conversation has moved outside your scope
- End and hand over without the person experiencing it as abandonment
What is included
- Audio narration
- Guided reflections
- Interactive exercises
- Practical activities
- Downloadable worksheets
- Assessment
- Portfolio work
- Certificate on completion
Before you start
None. This is the first course in the AURIS Practitioner Certification sequence.
After you finish
After you finish
You finish with a professional summary of what you can now do, your own pause and re-entry wording, your stated referral thresholds, and your Practitioner's Conversation Record to carry into real work. Course 2 then asks what changes when there are eight people in the room.
Common questions
How much does Identity-Centred Communication cost?
It is £20, paid once. You keep lifetime access to the course, including future research driven updates. There is no subscription or renewal.
Do I get a certificate?
Yes. Complete every lesson and pass the required assessment to receive an AURIS Certificate of Completion in your name. It records your learning. The separate Practitioner Certification is an internal AURIS programme; neither certificate is an externally accredited qualification or a clinical licence to practise.
How long does it take, and is it self-paced?
Study at your own pace. Lessons open in sequence after you complete the previous lesson; there is no daily waiting period for this course, and the course is designed to take about 150 minutes in total.
What work do I need to complete?
Lessons include practical activities and saved reflections. Some courses also require portfolio entries and an assessment; the lesson and assessment pages identify required work. Use ordinary or fictional examples where appropriate and avoid identifying details. Reading or listening alone does not complete a lesson.
Do I need to do anything before this course?
None. This is the first course in the AURIS Practitioner Certification sequence.
Next steps and related courses
Course progression
This is course 1 of 6 in the AURIS Institute Practitioner Certification.
- Foundation
- Applied
- Practitioner
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Evidence, sources and limitations
Research and evidence
This course teaches established psychological and communication principles, each traced to a named published source, and then uses the AURIS Framework as the method for applying them in practice. The sources support the underlying principles. They do not validate the AURIS Framework, and the course does not claim that they do. Verified sources used across the six lessons: McAdams (2001), narrative identity, https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.5.2.100 Tausczik and Pennebaker (2010), language and psychological state, https://doi.org/10.1177/0261927X09351676 Levenson and Gottman (1983), physiological linkage in conversation, https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.45.3.587 Levenson and Gottman (1985), arousal and conversation outcome, https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.49.1.85 Schwabe and Wolf (2009), stress and habitual responding, https://doi.org/10.1523/JNEUROSCI.0979-09.2009 Arnsten (2009), acute stress and prefrontal function, https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn2648 Loftus (2005), malleability of memory, https://doi.org/10.1101/lm.94705 Deffenbacher and colleagues (2004), high stress and eyewitness memory, https://doi.org/10.1007/s10979-004-0565-x Butler and Randall (2013), emotional co-regulation, https://doi.org/10.1177/1754073912451630 Jussim and Harber (2005), expectancy effects and their limits, https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327957pspr0902_3 Nickerson (1998), confirmation bias, https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.2.2.175 Clement and colleagues (2015), stigma and help-seeking, https://doi.org/10.1017/S0033291714000129 Lilienfeld (2007), harm from psychological treatment, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1745-6916.2007.00029.x Also used: Glynn, Christenfeld and Gerin (2002), rumination and delayed cardiovascular recovery, https://doi.org/10.1097/01.PSY.0000031574.42041.23; Neumann and colleagues (2004), attention shift and cardiac recovery, https://doi.org/10.1037/0278-6133.23.6.631; Heavey, Christensen and Malamuth (1995), withdrawal during conflict and later outcomes, https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.63.5.797 No claim in this course now rests on practice guidance presented as research. The former twenty-minute pause figure has been removed and replaced with the evidence-supported principle that a break works when attention comes off the trigger. This course is not drawn from AURIS's own interview study. Where a case is described it is a composite consistent with AURIS delivery, with no participant names, quotes or timestamps.
The evidence behind this course
Evidence
Narrative identity — McAdams, 2001 (Read source)
People continuously author an internal story of who they are, revised in conversation with others.
Language and psychological state — Tausczik and Pennebaker, 2010 (Read source)
Word choice (tense, agency, role words) tracks psychological state, which is why self-description is treated as working material, not background.
Physiological linkage in conversation — Levenson and Gottman, 1983 (Read source)
Physiological arousal during conflict conversation is linked between the two people talking.
Arousal and conversation outcome — Levenson and Gottman, 1985 (Read source)
The level of physiological arousal during a conversation predicts how the conversation and relationship fare afterwards, which is the basis for teaching flooding as a practice failure rather than persistence.
Stress and habitual responding — Schwabe and Wolf, 2009 (Read source)
Under stress, people shift from flexible to habitual responding.
Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function — Arnsten, 2009 (Read source)
Acute stress impairs prefrontal function, which is the basis for teaching regulation before harder identity work.
Malleability of memory — Loftus, 2005 (Read source)
Memory is reconstructive: recall is rebuilt at the point of remembering and can be shaped by later information.
High stress and eyewitness memory — Deffenbacher and colleagues, 2004 (Read source)
High stress is associated with reduced accuracy in eyewitness memory, supporting caution about treating a stressed account as a complete record.
Emotional co-regulation — Butler and Randall, 2013 (Read source)
A practitioner's own regulation affects the regulation of the person they are with.
Expectancy effects and their limits — Jussim and Harber, 2005 (Read source)
Expectancy effects on other people are real but generally modest, which sets the honest limit on what a practitioner's expectation can and cannot do.
Confirmation bias — Nickerson, 1998 (Read source)
People, including practitioners, tend to seek and interpret evidence in ways that confirm what they already believe.
Stigma and help-seeking — Clement and colleagues, 2015 (Read source)
Stigma is a documented barrier to people seeking help, relevant to how a practitioner raises the option of referral.
Harm from psychological treatment — Lilienfeld, 2007 (Read source)
Psychological intervention can cause harm as well as help, which is the basis for staying inside a stated practice boundary.
Rumination and delayed cardiovascular recovery — Glynn, Christenfeld and Gerin, 2002 (Read source)
Continuing to dwell on a stressor delays physiological recovery from it.
Attention shift and cardiac recovery — Neumann and colleagues, 2004 (Read source)
Shifting attention away from a stressor is associated with faster cardiac recovery, which is the evidence behind the taught pause and re-entry method.
Withdrawal during conflict and later outcomes — Heavey, Christensen and Malamuth, 1995 (Read source)
Withdrawing during conflict is associated with worse outcomes over time, relevant to why a pause is taught as deliberate re-entry rather than avoidance.
How AURIS interprets it
- AURIS states plainly that these sources support the underlying psychological principles and do not validate the AURIS Framework itself, and the course does not claim that they do.
- AURIS uses the principles above (narrative identity, flooding, reconstructive memory, confirmation bias and the rest) as the basis for a practical conversation method: hearing the identity claim, noticing overload, pausing and re-entering, and separating observation from interpretation.
What you do with it
- You mark up a real account, separating content statements from identity statements, and write the sentence you would say next.
- You keep an overload log, script a pause and re-entry, and separate what you observed from what you concluded in your written record.
Ready to begin?
This course is part of the Practitioner Certification: £400 in full, or £50 a month for 8 months.