Military Families
Family members can experience their own changes in work, routines and community around service life. Explore their distinct priorities and independent routes to support.
Different people, different priorities
Partners, children and wider family may experience changes around postings, service commitments and leaving. Their circumstances and wishes should be heard individually. AURIS offers educational resources for family members as well as service personnel, without assuming a family has one shared identity or one preferred route through change.
Family members have their own transition
A change in service life can affect a partner’s work, children’s routines, housing and relationships as well as the person leaving service. Family members’ priorities may differ. They should not be expected to act as someone else’s counsellor or tell a shared story in a single way.
An optional starting point is to ask what each person needs practical help with and what they want more time to discuss. Find support can be browsed by family members independently. Check whether a provider supports partners, children or the wider family, and what information it actually needs before you share personal details.
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